I can’t say I’m a great listener. But, I’m working being better.
When you listen to people, they feel important and valued. How about listening yourself ? Do you listen your heart?
“You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it’s better to listen to what it has to say. That way, you’ll never have to fear an unanticipated blow.” The Alchemist
This is a great place to start. If you are into a new hobby or skill, and you don’t know how to start. Just ask your inner circle :
Have you guys done something similar to this?
You will be surprised how much you are going to learn from that person. Yes, you will learn a lot from the Internet and books; however, learning from someone who has undergone a similar situation you are about to start, they are going to be the best teacher or coach to you. You can apply this for fishing, learning Japanese, starting a company, opening your restaurant business…anything really.
Most important thing: You will save a lot (I mean a lot x 100 ) of time. Instead of all the trials and error. You will have a great playbook. The playbook (your inner circle/friend) may not work out for you a hundred percent but still, they will give you the foundation you need.
Think about when the last time you ask for help was? Please don’t get me wrong. You should ask for help from the right person for the right thing. Learning from a friend is amazing but the most amazing is paid back to another friend. I should write about giving back to the community… maybe in the coming days.
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Share this post with a friend who helped you in the past or still helping you currently.
And say: You love them ❤️
In the last couple of weeks, Everyone has an idea for what’s going on epidemic (pandemic maybe) in the world. People are forwarding text, WhatsApp, and Instagram messages to each other how to survive messages against the Coronavirus.
We are all learning new things about the virus. One day we say: “Ok, We are good we are young nothing is going to happen us” Another day we are saying “ Oh, shit. We are totally screwed up”.
Here is my top to-do or not to-do lists since last couple week:
I honestly don’t know what we should do. I go to the grocery store or gym. I see full of people. I also hear almost everyone I know who works for office work, they are working at home. People are so desperate and want to believe what they want to believe. What do you believe?
If one part of your body is in the pain, you can feel it your entire body. Till the pain is gone, you can’t feel anything else. It depends on how painful it can stay with you days, months sometimes forever. The best way to get rid of pain, You should think pain is temporary in your life.
You should be well-informed about everything you do in this life it can bring you joy, happiness also pain. Nothing is going to serve you with beautiful display and ready to enjoy. If that happens that’s amazing. But, in default, you have to ready for painful days.
Pain is a great motivator. Sometimes, you can see a lot of folks are addicted to pain. They see pain is part of their journey. It makes their routines spicier.
I like pain more moderate way. Like mindset when it hurts, it’s working is. When it hurts a lot, I believe you have to stop it. My wife always says “ Everything is great in moderation”
I prefer walking meetings lately than sit down meetings. I like to walk and talk. It helps me a lot to rethink many aspects of life.
It is also a great stress relief exercise. They say if you want to make yourself happy, just walk around your house or neighborhood for 10-15 minutes.
Your mind needs walking more than your body. I feel my mind is cleaning all unnecessary pieces of stuff.
Best advice walk without listening to anything. Just listen to your mind and talk yourselves. If you don’t want to look funny while you are talking yourself, keep your headphones:) People think you are talking on the phone. (if you are still caring what others thinking about you)
Building talent is one of the most important issues in the business organization. Giving a chance someone who never done similar to your business sounds super risky. On the other side, that’s a huge return on that person’s personal journey and your company.
Let me start with your company, You can able to expand your hiring process with pretty much anyone who is eager to learn and ready to fight with you. All you are looking for someone who has a good intention, potential and grit. Later on those talent’s performance, you can keep iterating your talent organization. The secret of success for this process: Always feed the talent pool with hustlers.
For the talent perspective, literally you start from scratch. You have no prior experience but you can learn as long as you want to learn. You are going to gain a new skill set every day new to build your talent within the organization. Many opportunities to lead the team or help to rebuild some of the broken or not healthy processes. Don’t give up early and chop the wood & carry the water.
We are trying to solve all the problems ourselves. Every time, someone comes to me I do my best to find solutions for that person. Why am I doing this? I think I feel good when people ask my opinion.
I believe the best way to help people to ask the right questions. Most of the time, everyone knows their challenges better than anyone else. The reason they can’t easily figure out because of their daily burdens. All you do to help them asking relevant questions to turn like a sounding board.
You can start with the simple one “ What’s the biggest challenge here for you? “
What’s on your mind?
Full of ideas. Which one of them yours?
Why are you so upset?
Because you are not happy. What makes you unhappy?
What’s your goal?
Fake plans or society’s pressure. When are you going to be free?
Listen to your inner voice. Be open…
List all your desires. The ones you have been pushing them tomorrow.
Don’t you think today is worth more than tomorrow?
Don’t wait to read the books which are waiting on your bookshelf last couple months. Read it or don’t.
Don’t worry if you can’t finish it. Move on the next one! You don’t have to read entire books if you don’t like it. Life is not too long to read boring books. If something is great for someone, it doesn’t mean same thing for you.
In these days, we have tremendous option to read, watch or listen. That’s why curated lists are so important. Ask your friends their top 3 to 5 books they changed their lives. If it’s a book so important for another person that’s definitely worth it to buy. If u don’t like it that’s fine as I said start new one.
Please share with me your top 3 books. I’m going to share mine on my comments too.
Everything starts with a story. It is so odd to me whenever I see on the movie dad or mom is reading a story to kids. It was not a thing while I was growing up in Turkey. We didn’t have a storytime. So, I think we learned to tell the story ourselves instead of someone else.
The average person follows 100-500 people maybe more on an Instagram daily base. You are pretty much following their stories every time what and how they want to share. You care about their stories more than your stories. Later on, our stories are turning like their stories.
At least, we are all getting used to consuming media via stories. Why don’t we change our attitude while we are sharing stories to ourselves? We should ask:
Is this the story true? Or I made it up myself to make me feel good?
Am I going to keep sharing the same story or time to change with the new one?
Do I live my story or someone else?
